just saw a friend on campus who I haven’t seen in a while. it was nice to talk to him, and he gave me a huge hug because he’s a friendly guy. but part of what he said really kind of pissed me off.
him: so I see that you and steve broke up?
me: yeah, I found out he was cheating on me a bunch, so we’re done.
him: oh shit, how’d you find out?
me: well I feel kind of bad about it but his friends told me. like, I already sort of knew, they just confirmed my suspicions. and then steve hacked my facebook and read the messages from them, and now he won’t talk to them. I feel terrible, because I never wanted anyone to take sides but he kind of forced them to.
him: oh shit well… why did they tell you? way to rat him out…
me: uhm. because they care about me as a person and want me to be happy?
like, I don’t understand why everyone’s hung up on the “bro-code” aspect of this. sure, his friends told me that he cheated on me. that violates some sort of trust, I understand, but I deserved the truth and steve wasn’t going to give it to me. isn’t it kind of the same betrayal, that he slept with one of my friends? doesn’t that violate some kind of code?
ugh.